Protection and Nourishment

Some blame Eve for the fall while others say it was really Adam who caused sin to enter the world.

The easy answer is both are to blame. God created a wonderful system of protection and nourishment and the first male and female violated His system. 

Proverbs 31 says a husband trusts the worthy woman. Eve was not operating from trustworthiness when she presented Adam with the forbidden fruit. The Proverbs goes on to describe how the worthy woman feeds her family and the needy. 

God created, through the woman, a sublime system of nourishment. In marital intimacy the woman "allows in" as she does when providing food for her loved ones. It was this God given purpose that the snake attacked by tempting Eve to accept what was forbidden for nourishment.  

Similarly, Adam was called to protect or be a shield.  A shield "keeps from coming in" what brings destruction. The other branch of the system of nourishment and protection was broken when Adam did not serve as a shield to himself or his marriage.

Husband are to learn to be a shield through the Holy Spirit. Wives are to allow in what is good, not as a contradiction to the husband's role but as the second part of the divine system.

Secure attachments are more easily developed in familes birthed from healthy marriage.  Interestingly, secure attachment functions much like a healthy marriage: blocking destructive relationships and habits from coming into one's life and heart, and allowing nourishing relationships and habits to fully develop. 

Someone with an overly avoidant attachment style is scared of intimacy and tends to block even good relationships from forming. While someone with an overly anxious attachment style is scared of being alone and allows unhealthy relationships in regularly.

As we restore marriage and the family unit, the next generation is more likely to develop healthy and secure attachments and live fuller lives.