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Love Hindering Habits

Attachment, like most matters of the heart, is a complex affair. Some days the capacity for deep healing is not available.  

If avoidant attachment has hit a suppressive level, withdrawal has most likely become a habit. Habits make it easy to lose touch with what is within your control. 

One doable step toward secure attachment is simply starting to recognize when shutting down begins to occur. Awareness of a pattern is the first step in giving yourself another option. 

Once you Identify a tendency of detachment, you can then consciously stop yourself from disengaging by default. You can take a moment to evaluate if you feel safe enough to remain engaged, thus breaking the cycle and offering yourself a choice.

Take a deep breath, slow down, and give yourself the chance to connect with others.

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