More Than Pride or Predjuduce

One of my favorite books of all time is Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice.

The beloved Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Darcy nearly disregard their potential happiness together because of pride and prejudices. The two are able to work past their preconceived notions of each other and enter into a happy marriage.

The struggles depicted in Austen's masterpiece are understandable and common. The challenges are also manageable as the two do end up together.

True attachment issues are different. Mere misunderstandings can be clarified but attachment issues are formed at the most primitive stages of life and are not necessarily conscious misconceptions that can be rationally cleared up.

Attachment issues reside at the core of one's heart and mind. Fortunately victory is possible with the correct care, understanding, patience, and grace.

If you or someone you love has attachment issues have mercy. People suffering from insecure attachments are lonely and can feel alienated, rejected, suffocated, or afraid. They long for acceptance, intimacy, understanding, and security. Such things just seem to always slip through their fingers or be just out of reach.

How might you extend loving care to someone who avoids intimacy? How could you show love and acceptance to someone who is never satiated by what you can offer?

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